There are a lot of things I love about marriage. But today, I want to talk about the things I don’t love.
Here is what I think are the two worst things about marriage:
Worst Thing About Marriage: Sharing the Bed
I sometimes hate sharing my sleep space. Luckily, because Eric works 24-hour shifts, I have lots of nights where I have the bed to myself. And while I love the cuddling that occurs when Eric is on his side of the bed, I hate the interrupted sleep when Eric tries to hog my side of the bed.
For example, this is what it should look like when we’re sleeping:
This is what it actually looks like when we’re sleeping:
I will be asleep and Eric just takes up the whole bed. He thinks he’s on his side, but he’s not. He’s always int he middle of the bed, leaving me a fourth of the bed to hold on to for dear life. And then he gets mad if I shove him back to his side of the bed.
The truth is we just need a bigger bed.
Worst Thing About Marriage: Sharing Food
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve looked forward to eating something all day only to come home and find out that Eric has already eaten all of it and hasn’t saved me a single bite.
Oh, the food disappointment!
It got so bad at one point that I had to label our portions of cheese, so that I could make sure there would be some cheese left for me.
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Of course, I don’t even want to get into Eric’s perspective of what he thinks are the worst things about marriage. I’m sure he’d have a novel to write, haha.
What do you think are the worst things about marriage?
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LOL! I am the bed hogger in our relationship and I like to snuggle (early in our relationship we would fall asleep hugging, with me literally swaddled in his arms, and stay that way all night and wake up the same way. So nice…)
Food is a double edged sword. I don’ t like to share when I have something good, but the best thing about marriage is you can always get two different things to try and share. So I think I’m for sharing on that front.
The worst part for me is being married to someone that handles issues differently than you…totally sucks. I want to hash everything out in 30 minutes or less like great pizza delivery service…he wants to push it to the back of his head and think it over for days before getting back to it. Bleck!
Yes! This is my “worst thing about marriage” too. David wants to walk away and think things over for a day or two. I want to get things over with right then and there, so I don’t have to stew on it. It’s so annoying. It seems like he’s able to push our disagreements to the back of his mind and focus on other things. I can’t do that. If we have a fight and I go to work the next morning without it being resolved, all I can think about is our argument. BLAH!
HAHAHA I laughed so hard at this. I am the David/Len in our marriage!
Sharing the bed for sure, especially now in our sublet with a double bed. It’s just toooo small!
My guy and I learned longggg ago that we simply sleep better in separate beds. I know some people might think that’s extreme, but it just works for us. I have pretty bad insomnia most nights, and he uses a breathing machine at night, along with having bad sleep habits himself. We’ve been together for almost 13 years and I don’t think we would have passed the 5 year mark if we hadn’t gotten 2 beds! 🙂
I think for me, the worst thing about being in a long term relationship [we’re not married] is that if he’s being lazy, I want to be lazy, too. Why should I clean/cook/whatever if he’s just being a slug and reading for hours on end??
LOL! I have a hard time sharing the bed too. Try being single for awhile and doing that…damn near impossible without sleep aids!
The definition of cleanliness between two people was probably my biggest adjustment. As soon as the garbage got near full, I would take it out. My husband would just push things down further until things were overflowing. I am also someone who will accumulate things in a pile and then take it to it’s appropriate place. My husband sees it as clutter and when he gets in a cleaning mode kind of freaks out. Gotta love it. I think we’ve just kind of made adjustments. Although the dish that sits in the sink less than two feet from the dishwasher does drive me a little batty still….
One thing I hate about marriage is the decision of the food we will eat. We are both food lovers, but we have different preference of food so we often have a hard time which restaurant to take.
We’re not married yet, but we have been together for over 7 years so I think I can come up with quite a list myself 🙂 I would have to say I’m the bad sleeper in the relationship. He CLAIMS I kick all the blankets off, but then in the middle of the night, I usually have no blankets and he is holding it all in a ball. So I’m not sure what’s going on there. The other part is having to meal plan..it’s much easier to meal plan on my own since I’m not picky and I love eating healthy, whereas he buys crap….he went grocery shopping for us and he bought stuff for hamburgers, chili dogs, pasta, and sausage. UGH no bueno.
I agree with you on both of these! I’m fine with cuddling, but then I want my space for the rest of the night.
As for food, because I’m half of his size, he feels that he’s entitled to eat double the amount of food. Sharing a pizza with him is an entertaining battle full of side-eye glances to see who’s taking the next slice and how many they’ve already had.
Me and my GF couldn’t control our laugh when I spotted your pic of bed sharing. It is same everywhere, She is still laughing and now she says I to work 24/7 for some nights as mentioned in your post
I agree with sleeping being the worst. I keep telling my husband I wish we had king-sized bunk beds.
This totally hits home…especially since I have an Eric as a hubby too! Wait until kids come…I have not eaten one meal by myself in over five years. Someone is always grabbing something from my plate…and they eat all MY OREOS!
As far as the sleeping, we have a king size bed and my hubby knows he better to cross the center or he will pay dearly! However, there is still an issue with sharing a blanket…he’s a hog. And again the kids add another level…I generally do not sleep in my own bed 3-4 nights a week…ugggh!
I am convinced that the increase in divorce rates is in DIRECT CORRELATION with the fact that spouses first started sharing rooms (twin beds) and later sharing beds. I would love to have my own bedroom…painted the color I want with the bedding and number of pillows I want. With whatever decorations I want! This probably stems from the fact that in my whole life I have only had 2 years where I did not have to share a room with someone else! First siblings and then a husband!
They are all lucky they are so lovable!
I can totally agree with the food thing!!!! Omg my Mom has always said not sharing food is bad and blah blah BUT sometimes I really look forward to eating something and I am so sad literally sad when my hubby has already eaten it. Last Monday as a matter of fact lol I had pork shoulder leftovers with the crunchy part I dont know if you know what pernil is but I had that and I REALLY like the cruncy part! I spent 20 minutes in the stove returning it to it’s awesome crunchiness I turned around ONE minute to wash some dishes before sitting down to eat it and my hubs came in “Oh yummy crunchy”…ate the whole darn thing… I was SO mad like angry cry mad lol now I laugh about but this is one of my biggest “I hate about marriage” things lol.
As a side note if those are the worst two things about marriage I’d say you are doing pretty darn good!! : )
My biggest pet peeve about marriage that could actually apply to a roommate situation as well is that I can’t have the house as perfectly neat and orderly as I want it to be all the time. I love order and everything in it’s place and let’s just say, my husband could care less! I’ve learned to look past a lot of things and he’s learned to deal with my wrath. We work it out but gone are the days when I loved alone and everything was just how I left it.
In our house I’m the one who more likely will have eaten the food (hanging head in shame) and as for sleeping. We are both cuddlers so it works. At least I am and he deals with it!
But you know what they say….marriage is about compromise! Ugh!! It really is on so many levels!!
My husband’s snoring! Seriously, I have to leave our room at least two or three times a week because I can’t sleep through it!
My husband would TOTALLY agree with you on these two! He doesn’t often eat my food and I love being close in bed so they aren’t on my list.
I think the worst thing right now for me is that sometimes my husband’s reasoning is just inscrutable to me. We’re both very logical and rational but sometimes we talk past each other with our reasoning and end up fighting. I don’t like wanting to understand him but not being able to. If we weren’t married I could just be like whatever, I don’t need to understand.
As a single, never married person, I can only see what I see through other people’s eyes… 1) Having to do what they want to do when you really don’t want to (ie, you’d rather stay home and read a book, but they want to go over to their friends/family and chat. And you feel as if they’re talking a different language–in my friends’ case, that’s probably the case that they talk in a different language). 2) Having someone often second guess you, or offer advice when you wanted none, or “gently” suggest things. And heavens forbid if you don’t abide by them. 3) Sleeping in a room that is too hot or too cold because your partner is hot/cold. Affects a lot of fathers-to-be. 4) The whole “leave half a gulp of orange juice in the carton and put it back in the fridge. Same goes for the last half-bitten slice of cheese, last shreds of deli ham or 1 slice of bread.